Posts by troubled mind

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Sex at 14?

by headisspinning in

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14 years ago

hello all.... some of you have been following our story from the beginning - and even those of you who haven't should be able to relate to my quandary.... last week my 14 year old son told me he no longer wants to be a jw.

we laboured over telling his jw dad all week.

well, on friday night he finally came clean.. but in a bizarre and unexpected twist, after having sex with his girlfriend for the very first time - in his father's home that very afternoon.

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

I think it is important to ask him why he choose to have sex . Was it just hormones or something deeper ? You said he doesn't want to be a JW was this his way of getting out of the cult quick card ? Or does he want out of the JW's because he discovered sex ?

No matter what 14 is young and there is no reason why you shouldn't encourage him to put on the brakes for a couple of yrs . It is good he can talk to you openly about this ,but you are the parent and it is important for you to set guidelines as to appropriate behavior . It doesn't have to have religious meaning behind your reasoning ....it is just good common sense !

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Carolyn Jessop

by mamalove in

15 years ago

when she was on oprah some years ago, promoting her book escape, i was mesmerized.

(for those of you who are not familiar, she was a member fo the fundamental mormon sect and broke free).

i went to school and had worked with mormon's in the past, so i was intruigued.

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

Just finished her book today ,amazing strength this woman has . I read the book in two days I just couldn't put it down . When she talks about how she felt as a kid really hit home with me . Several things she said reminded me of how it was as a Witness .

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Tell Us What's Happening on Mother's Day

by OnTheWayOut in

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14 years ago

so many of us are free, so many of us are not.. share whatever "mother's day" activity you will be involved in this year.

moms and those with non or ex-jw moms, whazzup?.

tell us how that makes you feel, your involvement or lack of involvement in mother's day..

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

Saturday I am going to a girls only pot-luck of former JW ladies that all use to attend the local KH . We have all reconnected on facebook and are trying to get together once a month .

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Tell Us What's Happening on Mother's Day

by OnTheWayOut in

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14 years ago

so many of us are free, so many of us are not.. share whatever "mother's day" activity you will be involved in this year.

moms and those with non or ex-jw moms, whazzup?.

tell us how that makes you feel, your involvement or lack of involvement in mother's day..

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

I have recently been introduced to a new group of friends . One woman in the group puts on a Mother's Day BBQ every year for all her friends ! This will be our first year , and it sounds like a blast .

I am amazed how warmly my husband and I hve been integrated into already established groups of friends .

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What's the most dumbest/petty thing you've heard of someone being "stumbled" over?

by Reality79 in

14 years ago

- some loser once took offense that i hugged a sister goodbye at a leaving do and ran back to the elders like a little child telling on me.

i was 15, this sister was in her 40s at the time.. - this elder said someone told him they saw me with a copy of the sun newspaper.

yes, this paper is known for its 'page 3' topless girls but far from pornagraphic and i wasn't even thinking along those lines.. - one brother who had a good job was 'counselled' because he was actually able to buy himself nice things including a new car (shock, horror!!

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troubled mind 14 years ago

I live in the mid -west and our winters get alot of snow and freezing temps in the winter . For service I wore a long coat and high boots ,so under neath I sometimes wore pants out in service instead of a dress . How would anyone know ? But a sister complained .... The Brother used the reasoning "what if you go in a householder's house and took off your coat " ( oh I don't know ??? pants would cause them to have a heart attack ? ) Good grief !!!!

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Osama Bin Laden is dead !

by troubled mind in

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

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Finally getting my life in order.

by JonathanH in

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14 years ago

i've been out for a few years now, officially ousted and shunned for probably a year and a half, maybe even closing in on two years, the exact date eludes me.

and given that i was still married to a witness, and one that i cared deeply about, i wasn't overly concerned with what i wanted, so much as how to make things better for her.

in the intervening time i think i have done that, and quite well.

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

Jonathan that is awesome ! It is so encouraging to hear of someone that puts the fear behind them and pushes forward with aplan . So very happy for you . My daughter in law just made the leap into college (her life long dream ) and she is loving it ! I am sure you will too .

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my lesbian jw relative...sad but true 4-some...and penance

by oompa in

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14 years ago

yeah i thought the 4-some thing would hook some of you guys in lol!.

she is about 24 and has three other gay jw roommates and has for a few years.

virtually everyone knows they are gay.

14 years ago

troubled mind 14 years ago

OOmpa , I use to tell my husband all the time that I thought many of our pioneers were Pioneering as penance to ease guilty consciences . Maybe not for being lesbian ,but other 'sins' especially of the past .

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